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I Can't Find People I Want to Be Friends With: Finding Your Tribe

Struggling to make friends? Integrative Family Counseling in Dupage County, IL can help. Find support and build meaningful connections.

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Feeling isolated and struggling to connect with others is a common experience. Many adults find it challenging to build new friendships, especially as life circumstances change. At Integrative Family Counseling in Dupage County, IL, we understand these struggles and offer support to help you find your tribe. We provide a safe space to explore the reasons behind your difficulty in making friends and develop strategies for building meaningful connections.

Find A Therapist That Specializes In Friendship Challenges

Our compassionate therapists at Integrative Family Counseling understand the pain of feeling isolated and can guide you in developing the skills and confidence needed to build fulfilling friendships.

Sheri Williamson

Sheri Williamson

LCSW

I help to build a client's confidence and capacity for managing and mitigating their mental health. Together we create a plan based on the client's priorities using a strengths-based approach. Clients learn new interventions and how to incorporate them into every day life.

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Irina Salabai

Irina Salabai

Psychiatric Nurse Practitioner
APRN
PMHNP-B

I deliver care that is empathetic, compassionate and evidence-based. I take time to listen and to understand each person's unique needs. I aim to provide and maintain a safe, non-judgmental, holistic and supportive therapeutic environment.

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Sandra Villwock

Sandra Villwock

LCSW

My approach to therapy uses a variety of techniques and modalities to individualize treatment to each client's unique needs. Whether it's supportive therapy, mindfulness-based therapy or other forms of psychotherapy, I work collaboratively with each client to develop a plan that will help achieve his or her goals and be their best self.

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Juliana Morgan

Juliana Morgan

LCPC

I believe that change and growth can happen and aim to guide my client's on their path of discovery. I value the therapeutic relationship and seek to provide a safe, empathetic, and authentic healing environment.

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Kyle Harris

Kyle Harris

LCPC

I have served in a variety of roles within the mental health field, including private practice, juvenile detention, and school districts. Across each setting, I've remained committed to a person-centered approach, prioritizing strong, healthy relationships as the foundation for growth and progress.

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Making friends as an adult can be surprisingly difficult. Unlike school or college, where social interaction is built-in, adult life often requires more intentional effort. Research shows strong friendships can significantly impact both mental and physical health. Work, family responsibilities, and other commitments can limit opportunities to meet new people. Furthermore, as we age, our priorities and interests may change, making it harder to find common ground with others. The rise of social media, while offering connection, can also contribute to feelings of isolation and inadequacy if not used mindfully.

Feeling isolated and lacking social connection can have a significant impact on mental and physical health. Social anxiety and loneliness can contribute to depression, anxiety, and even physical ailments. Humans are social beings, and we thrive on connection. Meaningful friendships provide support, reduce stress, and enhance our overall well-being. Building strong friendships is essential for a happy and fulfilling life.

Several factors can contribute to difficulties in making friends. Social anxiety can make it challenging to initiate conversations or put yourself out there. Past experiences of rejection or betrayal can lead to feelings of inadequacy . Low self-esteem can make it difficult to believe that others would want to be friends with you. Sometimes, it’s simply a matter of not knowing where to meet people with similar interests.

Building friendships takes time and effort, but it’s entirely possible. Start by identifying your interests and joining shared activities like book clubs, volunteer opportunities, or classes where you’re likely to meet like-minded individuals. Putting yourself in environments where you’re likely to meet like-minded individuals increases your chances of forming connections.

Effective communication is crucial for building friendships. Practice active listening, which involves truly paying attention to what the other person is saying. Ask open-ended questions to encourage conversation and show genuine interest. Share things about yourself, but keep the focus balanced. Remember, building friendships is a two-way street.

If social anxiety is a barrier, consider seeking professional help. A therapist can help you identify the root of your anxiety and develop coping mechanisms. They can also help you build confidence in social situations and practice social skills in a safe environment. Overcoming social anxiety can open up a world of possibilities for connection.

Self-acceptance is crucial for building healthy relationships. Embrace your strengths and acknowledge your weaknesses. Believe that you are worthy of friendship. When you accept yourself, you project confidence and attract positive connections. Setting healthy boundaries with friends helps maintain strong relationships. Remember, everyone has something unique to offer.

Therapy can be invaluable in addressing the challenges of making friends. A therapist can provide a safe space to explore your feelings, identify patterns in your relationships, and develop strategies for building stronger connections. They can also help you address underlying issues like social anxiety, low self-esteem, or past trauma that may be hindering your ability to form friendships.

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We accept most major insurance plans and offer low self-pay rates to ensure quality care is accessible to everyone. Your well-being is our priority, and we're here to help regardless of your financial situation.

Our Therapy Centers in DuPage County

We also offer online therapy sessions for your convenience.

Lombard Therapy Center

10 Therapists at this location

Our Lombard office is conveniently located near the Yorktown Shopping Center, offering easy access from I-355 and I-88. The modern facility provides a welcoming environment for therapy sessions.

Monday - Friday: 8:00 AM - 8:00 PM

2200 S Main St suite 217e, Lombard, IL 60148

Clarendon Hills Therapy Center

8 Therapists at this location

Our Clarendon Hills office is situated in a peaceful setting near the Metra station, making it easily accessible for commuters. The location offers a serene atmosphere perfect for counseling sessions.

Monday - Friday: 8:00 AM - 8:00 PM

219 W. 55th St. Suite 202-203 Clarendon Hills, IL 60514

Wheaton Therapy Center

1 Therapists at this location

Our Wheaton office is centrally located near the College of DuPage, providing a convenient location for students and families. The office features comfortable spaces designed for therapeutic work.

Monday - Friday: 8:00 AM - 8:00 PM

600 W Roosevelt Rd, Wheaton, IL 60187
Adult life often involves less structured social interaction than school or college. Responsibilities like work and family can limit opportunities to meet new people. Also, people's priorities shift, making it harder to find common interests and invest time in new friendships.
Feeling disconnected is common, especially when struggling to find your tribe. It can stem from various factors, including social anxiety, past experiences, or simply not having found the right environment. Therapy can help explore these feelings and develop strategies for building connections.
Therapy can address underlying issues that hinder forming friendships, like low self-esteem or social anxiety. A therapist can help you develop social skills, identify your values and interests, and build confidence in social situations. They can also help you understand patterns in your relationships.
Joining clubs, volunteering, taking classes, or attending local events are great ways to meet people who share your passions. Online groups and communities can also connect you with like-minded individuals. Consider what you enjoy and seek out related activities.
Start with simple, open-ended questions about the other person or the shared environment. Listen actively and show genuine interest in their responses. Share something about yourself, but keep the focus balanced. A smile and friendly demeanor go a long way.
Consistent effort is key. Reach out regularly, suggest activities, and be there for your friend. Show genuine care and listen actively. Respect boundaries and communicate openly. Friendships require nurturing to thrive.
Absolutely! The number of friends is less important than the quality of those connections. Deep, meaningful friendships are more valuable than many superficial ones. Focus on building strong relationships with the people you truly connect with.
Rejection is a part of life. Don't take it personally. It may simply be that you and that person aren't a good match. Focus on the positive connections you do have and continue putting yourself out there. Resilience is key.

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